I explained something today to my husband in a way even more interesting than interpretive dance!
A quick play in three acts. I stood, I performed, and I summed up the last ten years in a succinct, humorous way that got the point totally across with both class and without being a total beast.
The quick version? I need to step down and back to give him a chance.
I have to focus on the house and the kids for a hot minute while my delightful husband does his thing outside the house, without the kids. It makes me wicked-tense because housewifery is so not my forte. I get all obsessive when the house is under my purview and things are clean but then I’m all crazy about the kids getting things into the dishwasher immediately and toys all have to be put away before bed. It’s not horrible, but I’m just really strict and he’s more loosey-goosey and him being primary and me being the secondary is my preferred method of running the house.
But this is a sacrifice I’m making for the good of the whole family.
Kind of like the whole “not working as much as I’d originally planned” part of the new plan that was not part of the original plan. I’m putting the whole Dave Ramsey thing on hold for a hot minute because it’s all savings accounts on deck to give him the time he needs to work out what he’s working out. (Sorry, I’d love to share it but sharing his stuff online is not okay for me to share even though right now it’s way more interesting than my decisions and drama.) It’s times like this that I would love to be an amazing Christian that could just reference Proverbs 31 and try to be virtuous. Unfortunately, that’s not entirely how I roll so it’s not going to work very well to just repeat the verse like it was a Buddhist chant.
But chanting aside, I have to work on my writing while being all mother-y and housewife-y. I can do it, but to make sure it works the way I need it to, this weekend will be spent making schedules for myself and the kids. They like the schedules, because I totally add clip art and times and things so they get all into it and think it’s totally fun. (I got that from Supernanny years ago, except I tape the pieces of paper with the schedules to the wall instead of making cool felt boards or all that other crafty stuff she does.)
On the bright side, this will give me the extra time to focus on my interests and maybe within one of those I will find something deeper or be able to help some folks.
Budgeting, fitness, paleo, writing, and family. Sounds kind of perfect, when I think about it that way.